man......this sucks

[anime____4ever]

so my fiance and i are breaking up, after 6 years.
i feel like i'm in a daze, its kinda surreal.

the part that makes it so odd, is that we have a morgage and a dog. so for the past 2 days that we have been broken up, we still live toghether. we also don't know whos gonna get the dog, or what we are gonna do about him.

we are currently trying to decide what to do with the condo, but if we decide to sell it, we might still be living here untill it sells.....i dunno.
i've never been dumped b4, and then have to live with my Ex.
we even still sleep in the same bed, maybe just because we are so used to it.

the reasons for the break up are...... too many to list.
lets just say that she isn't a geek like me, so shes not into anime or D&D or mmo's or video games or any other stuff like that.
she is also more money driven than i. she wants the big house and the nice car with a pool in the back yard, and i could care less about that stuff.
i guess we just werent compatible. i just kinda thought love would conquer all, but i guess thats not the way it happens irl huh?
good friends and love are more important than money, at least imo.

another wierd thing is my age, i'm 29.
it just seems a little late to get back into the dating game.
who knows, maybe i will end up doing somthing like eharmony or match later.
*shrug*

[Ridley-X4]

There's always doujinshi and eroges......

[Ikari Warrior]

That's a little beyond suck. Good luck with that. Don't worry about the dating game, man, you're never too old to date.

[Soluzar]

So my fiance and I are breaking up, after 6 years.
I feel like I'm in a daze, its kinda surreal.
That must be terrible. I can't say I understand what you're feeling right now, but it must be very difficult for you. The only thing that's going to make it better is time, and a lot of that.

The part that makes it so odd, is that we have a mortgage and a dog. so for the past 2 days that we have been broken up, we still live together.
That definitely does sound odd, personally I'd want to see if any of my friends had a spare room rather than stay in that situation.

I've never been dumped before, and then have to live with my ex.
Although I don't recommend doing it again, it definitely gets easier with experience. :lol:

Of course it's always a big deal, but once you've been through it and moved on a time or two, you kinda know that the negative feelings won't last forever... and they really won't. In some cases there will always be a warm spot inside your heart for the ones you've left behind, but it fades from an eternal flame to a glowing ember in time. It doesn't hurt quite so acutely after a few years. Eventually it's just a tiny pang of sadness that won't trouble you unless you think about it.


We even still sleep in the same bed, maybe just because we are so used to it.
I don't mean to be rude, but I can't imagine that's a good idea. You need to move on and start the healing process as quickly as possible, unless there's still some chance of a reconciliation.

Lets just say that she isn't a geek like me, so she's not into anime or D&D or mmos or video games or any other stuff like that.
I've not done an enormous amount of dating, but honestly I can say that it is better when you can share those interests with someone. It's not necessary, but it does help things to go along smoothly.

She is also more money driven than I. she wants the big house and the nice car with a pool in the back yard, and I could care less about that stuff.
I hear ya loud and clear. I couldn't be with someone who was a 'bread-head' as the British slang goes. There's nothing wrong with good sense when it comes to money, but the pursuit of wealth doesn't appeal to me. There's a difference between good financial sense and just the shameless pursuit of material gain. Not that I can even claim to have good financial sense. :lol:

Another wierd thing is my age, I'm 29. It just seems a little late to get back into the dating game.
Obviously dating at 29 is going to be different from dating in your teens, or early twenties. You've moved on in life, you've changed. If it is any comfort to ya, I didn't meet my current girlfriend until I was over 30. It's not like dating just stops past a certain age.

[Gibb]

Dating at 29 sounds old, but in reality people are usually far more ready to get into a relationship in their late 20's to 30's. I'm 28 right now, and I finally feel like I'm ready to get into a serious relationship because my life has settled to a point where I have a steady job and a house.

[Ken-Ohki]

Nobody's compatible, NOBODY. The most common reason for divorce (this is basically the same thing) is irreconcilable differences. When interviewing couples who have been married 50 and 60 years they find an average of 7 irreconcilable differences among them. Go to therapy, go to counseling, work it out, give up some of yourself in exchange for her doing the same. Make amends and meet each other, you can do it people with terrible problems have gone through worse and pulled through, you can be one of them. I never ever like hearing people in a lifelong relationship break up for any reason. Give us all hope, make it work.

[The Million Dollar Prons]

the part that makes it so odd, is that we have a morgage and a dog. so for the past 2 days that we have been broken up, we still live toghether.

It's always the dog who suffers.



we are currently trying to decide what to do with the condo, but if we decide to sell it, we might still be living here untill it sells.....i dunno.
i've never been dumped b4, and then have to live with my Ex.
we even still sleep in the same bed, maybe just because we are so used to it.


Now this would be a good sticom scene. If Mad About You was still airing I'd write a spec-script.


lets just say that she isn't a geek like me, so shes not into anime or D&D or mmo's or video games or any other stuff like that.

The problem with living together is that eventually she will realize how much dorky stuff you're into. I never tell chicks about all the goofy stuff I'm into, so sometimes things happen like this, "Ohh Prons this is sooo hot-huh what's under the pillow? Eww it's sticky-- Witchblade, what's a witchblade? It's like a comic book? What the hell?"


she is also more money driven than i. she wants the big house and the nice car with a pool in the back yard, and i could care less about that stuff.

One thing about women is they always want bigger and better (This sounds like penis) things (that also sounds like penis), whereas us MEN would just be happy to live in a cardboard box apartment that smells like astroglide.


another wierd thing is my age, i'm 29.
it just seems a little late to get back into the dating game.
who knows, maybe i will end up doing somthing like eharmony or match later.
*shrug*


The good thing about dating at that age is the girls don't care anymore so sex is pretty much guranteed. BIGGER AND BETTER THINGS.

[Trefellin]

It sounds like you two are just not very good together. It's not as easy to get along with someone when you have nothing in common.

It could be worse though. You could've gotten married before she decided she didn't want to be with you. Or, she could've been way too much of a geek, accidentally calling you Alucard in bed or something.

[waltsoph3]

good friends and love are more important than money, at least imo.



Buddy you and i speak the same language. This..this is what is indeed more important. Trust me i've been a victim of this. Its not untill finnaly one day you just wake up and BAM it hits you like a ton of bricks. Its better you found out now then when its way too late.

One things for sure noone is alike 100%. Life would be stale if it was.lol
But don't let that be the reason to stop you from finding some joy in your life.


Anyways i'm truly sorry to hear about your situation and i wish you the best of luck.

[Meegle]

All I can really say is that that sucks man. sorry.

[MirKz]

That sucks dude, maybe you guys will work it out.

On another note... you mention she's not a geek etc, and then u list that she's not into a bunch of things (mostly computer related stuff). Have you thought of maybe giving up some of the the stuff you mention or cutting down ? If that's possibly part of the problem ?
Games are games... life and love are more important.

[Hara!]

If it were just your hobbies, I'd recommend you work it out. But that money stuff is hard to work through.

I never got quite why people did that.

[Haruhi]

I'm sorry to hear about that. I hope you two come to a respectable, mutual agreement.

[Shiroiyuki]

Yeah, that does suck. Hopefully you both are mature enough not to be petty in your parting, especially since you seem to share a lot of things with one another -- including living quarters. Like Soluzar said, you should probably split as soon as you can to start moving on.

I hope you wrote your name in all your books and kept tabs on what you brought into the relationship. That way there is no confusion and arguing about the small stuff while moving out.

[goddessofanime]

so my fiance and i are breaking up, after 6 years.
i feel like i'm in a daze, its kinda surreal.

the part that makes it so odd, is that we have a morgage and a dog. so for the past 2 days that we have been broken up, we still live toghether. we also don't know whos gonna get the dog, or what we are gonna do about him.

we are currently trying to decide what to do with the condo, but if we decide to sell it, we might still be living here untill it sells.....i dunno.
i've never been dumped b4, and then have to live with my Ex.
we even still sleep in the same bed, maybe just because we are so used to it.

the reasons for the break up are...... too many to list.
lets just say that she isn't a geek like me, so shes not into anime or D&D or mmo's or video games or any other stuff like that.
she is also more money driven than i. she wants the big house and the nice car with a pool in the back yard, and i could care less about that stuff.
i guess we just werent compatible. i just kinda thought love would conquer all, but i guess thats not the way it happens irl huh?
good friends and love are more important than money, at least imo.

another wierd thing is my age, i'm 29.
it just seems a little late to get back into the dating game.
who knows, maybe i will end up doing somthing like eharmony or match later.
*shrug*

Why is it do weird that you're back to dating again at 29? It's not weird...

Anyways...I am sorry things didn't work out. That does suck after six years.

Love is a funny, funny thing....

But yeah, I hope you did what Shiro said. For legal and expense reasons.

As for dating again....you don't have to go into bars...I've met most people I've gone out with thru friends.

[VidelCoolGirl]

It sucks, but keep in mind, not many people are into 'geek' hobbies. What kinds of things is she into? Has she attempted to become interested in your hobbies and interests and same vice-versa? Although I'm sure there are many reasons, if her not being a nerd is a primary reason, then I don't really agree with the breakup. Still, best of luck to you. There are many more fish in the sea.

[Caster13]

so my fiance and i are breaking up, after 6 years.
i feel like i'm in a daze, its kinda surreal.

the part that makes it so odd, is that we have a morgage and a dog. so for the past 2 days that we have been broken up, we still live toghether. we also don't know whos gonna get the dog, or what we are gonna do about him.

we are currently trying to decide what to do with the condo, but if we decide to sell it, we might still be living here untill it sells.....i dunno.
i've never been dumped b4, and then have to live with my Ex.
we even still sleep in the same bed, maybe just because we are so used to it.

the reasons for the break up are...... too many to list.
lets just say that she isn't a geek like me, so shes not into anime or D&D or mmo's or video games or any other stuff like that.
she is also more money driven than i. she wants the big house and the nice car with a pool in the back yard, and i could care less about that stuff.
i guess we just werent compatible. i just kinda thought love would conquer all, but i guess thats not the way it happens irl huh?
good friends and love are more important than money, at least imo.

another wierd thing is my age, i'm 29.
it just seems a little late to get back into the dating game.
who knows, maybe i will end up doing somthing like eharmony or match later.
*shrug*

Wow this is straight out of The Breakup.:blink:

[VidelCoolGirl]

It also sounds like she's driven for success, and you're coasting. To be honest, I have to side with her. Although this all sucks, playing video games and watching anime all day is something I don't want to be doing past 25. Whats the matter with her wanting to be successful? If you don't mind me asking, what are your jobs? What does she do, and what to you do to bring home the bling?

[Rurouni Saiyan]

I'm gonna be blunt, man. This girl did you a favor by breaking up. The keyword in your explanation is that she's money driven. I've been in a similar situation with my ex-gf while I was in college and let me tell you, that is a major red flag. Run, run hard, run fast. Think of it like this, you would've ran yourself ragged trying to keep up with her demands if you stayed with her.

I wouldn't be to eager to jump back into the dating arena. Take this time to focus on yourself, get your mind right, and enjoy yourself. Sucks that you guys broke up after 6 years for what seems to be a trivial issue, IMHO, but life goes on. Just don't get bogged down on just thinking about her. Keeping doing what you do and live.

It also sounds like she's driven for success, and you're coasting. To be honest, I have to side with her. Although this all sucks, playing video games and watching anime all day is something I don't want to be doing past 25. Whats the matter with her wanting to be successful? If you don't mind me asking, what are your jobs? What does she do, and what to you do to bring home the bling?

Success is a subjective term. Success for some people means living to see the next day. For others is the iconic monetary gain. She sounds golddigger-ish to me. To me, anime's hobbies don't seem like a 24/7 thing. Just stuff that anyone else does. *Purely judging by what he posted*

[J Dude]

the reasons for the break up are...... too many to list.
lets just say that she isn't a geek like me, so shes not into anime or D&D or mmo's or video games or any other stuff like that.

A man's gotta have his hobbies, but if you want to keep a relationship with someone, you have to satisfy your partner's needs as well. Of course it shouldn't be like she's forbidding you from doing what you want to do every now and then, but you should give her some time when she wants it to do stuff she wants to make her happy. Of course if you really feel like it's not worth it, then perhaps its better that you don't be in this relationship.

she is also more money driven than i. she wants the big house and the nice car with a pool in the back yard, and i could care less about that stuff.

As I said before, if you really want to be with someone, you have to at least satisfy some of their needs. Of course there is such a thing as a happy middle, where you both can agree on something hopefully.

i guess we just werent compatible. i just kinda thought love would conquer all, but i guess thats not the way it happens irl huh? good friends and love are more important than money, at least imo.

I learned the hard way back in high school that love and romance in real life isn't like in a fairy tale where there's always a happy ending and the guy always ends up with the girl. I was madly in love with my best friend's sister at the time. I was such a recluse back in high school and I was way too shy to tell her I was in love with her, though the way I acted around her was a total giveaway. By the time I actually told her, she said she just liked me as a friend. Funny thing is I went so far as to lose 60 pounds at one point in high school because I'm sure she wouldn't want to date an overweight sack of fat. Yea, it sucked that she rejected me and I was angry about it. I got over it though and I don't even feel that way about her anymore, I moved on. She comes into my work once in a blue moon and is married to some guy I went to high school with and has a kid and I think nothing of it now. There are plenty of other women out there.

I tried dating some girl in one of my art classes at my community college back in the Fall because she started talking to me a bit, and wanted to walk to the library with me to use the copier to copy my paper. I thought she liked me because of this, so I asked her if she wanted to go out with me sometime and she said yes. I was extremely happy, but then by the time the date came, she pulled a no show and told me that she got pulled over by the cops for driving around with no license and had to go down to the police station to fill out a report or something. I thought it was total BS and she was lying. Perhaps in reality she didn't want to date me, but she was some weird person who was too shy to say no? The next day in class I asked her what happened and she gave me that story. Then I pretty much told her, "Well... if you wanna do anything with me, then just let me know." In other words, I basically just told her to screw off. We stopped talking to each other for the remainder of the semester. Then after the semester ended and like a month later, she text messages me on my phone saying, "Hey, what's up?" I had long since deleted her number out of my phone and thus I didn't recognize who it was. So I text messaged her back saying, "Umm... who is this...? I don't recognize this number." Then later I got a message back saying, "Oh I think you know who this is!" and then I was like, "Oh crap... it's her..." I never bothered responding back because the J Juice just wasn't flowing for her anymore and I didn't have anymore interest in her.

Like 4-5 months later and I really haven't met anyone who has interested me enough to want a relationship. All that I've gotten so far is a few chicks who I'd probably careless about having a relationship with and would just want to have sex with. And that's basically the story of my pathetic love life. 24 years old, virgin, and never been in working relationship. :lol: I'll meet somebody one day though, or at least I hope so.

another wierd thing is my age, i'm 29.
it just seems a little late to get back into the dating game.
who knows, maybe i will end up doing somthing like eharmony or match later.
*shrug*

Really in my opinion, 29 years old is still very young. Trying saying this when you're 40. It's not too late to find somebody else if you really feel like you want to get out of your current relationship.

[Leader Desslock]

All things in perspective.

Does the situation suck more than getting yourself into a marriage that's so easily fractured? No? Then this situation is, at worst, the least of two evils.

I know nothing about you, her or this relationship. Based purely on what you've posted in this one thread alone... eh, I don't think we're getting the whole truth here.

Nobody breaks up a relationship of this many years "just because we don't share hobbies", or because "he/she seems oddly materialistic/like a slacker oblivious to the demands of the real world". There are much deeper issues at work here.

If you both want to try really hard, get counseling, and work out your issues, great! If you don't both want to do that, then it's best that it fell apart before you both put any more time into a relationship of convenience. Time for you both to just move on.

Really in my opinion, 29 years old is still very young. Trying saying this when you're 40.
As a representative of that demographic, I'd just like to remind you not to look both ways before crossing the street.

[DazzleKitty]

Sorry to hear about your dilemma. That must be quite hard for you, and I feel for ya. But dating at 29 isn't old at all. I know of people in their 30s who are dating. Like someone else said, you are never too old to date.

[goddessofanime]

Hell I know 90 year olds who are getting some though they can't get it up themselves...

But.....she might've been wondering if you were ever going to settle down as well, if you were engaged for six years.

[Caster13]

But.....she might've been wondering if you were ever going to settle down as well, if you were engaged for six years.

Good point, how could you be engaged for six years and not get married?:huh:

[Soluzar]

Good point, how could you be engaged for six years and not get married?:huh:
You don't think maybe they were dating for six years and only engaged for a much shorter time? Seems more likely to me...

[fujyoshi]

There's always doujinshi and eroges......

thats the spirit :'D

[f2akid]

I know nothing about you, her or this relationship. Based purely on what you've posted in this one thread alone... eh, I don't think we're getting the whole truth here.

Nobody breaks up a relationship of this many years "just because we don't share hobbies", or because "he/she seems oddly materialistic/like a slacker oblivious to the demands of the real world". There are much deeper issues at work here.

I don't think the OP meant that was the reason for breaking up. Sometimes when you're deep in a relationship you are going to find out things about your partner that will surprise you and you won't like said things. These kinds of things surface after a while and how long it takes to surface depends on the people involved. What the OP is saying (IMHO) is just that things snowballed from her not liking his hobbies and him realising she's very materialistic; they must've tried to make it work no? And although it's also plausible that they would have found out about these things a long time ago and broken up then, what I can say is once you're already in the relationship and you feel for the person, you're going to hope that love prevails and try to set these things aside for the bigger picture.

Why is it do weird that you're back to dating again at 29? It's not weird...

The only thing weird about dating at 29 is some of the people you're going to come across here and there. Apart from that an intelligent and sensible person who looks after themselves well at that age shouldn't run into much shortage of opportunities when looking to get back to dating.

That's basically all the advice I can give you anime___4ever. I've seen a lot of people at around 30 who have a hard time getting back into dating because they are simply looking in the wrong areas. First think about your age and then think about your approach and standards based on your current lifestyle (as opposed to trying to go back to having the mentality you used to have before you got with this girl, which could end up making you feel uncomfortable).

And good luck with that as well, I'm sure you will be fine. It's just as Soluzar said - The only thing that's going to make it better is time, and a lot of that.

[goddessofanime]

You don't think maybe they were dating for six years and only engaged for a much shorter time? Seems more likely to me...

That's true too. Know plenty of couples who've taken that route.

[Leader Desslock]

I don't think the OP meant that was the reason for breaking up.
It may well have been the excuse for the "We need to talk" chat, but I very much doubt it was the reason.

...they must've tried to make it work no?
Not very hard, from the sounds of it. But then, from the sounds of it, I don't think it seems like either of them should invest anything more than they already have into a relationship that sounds doomed to failure from the get-go.

That's just from the sound of it, here, in this thread. Which I've already said was a rather limited glimpse into the situation, and my words should be taken within that context.

[J Dude]

Sometimes when you're deep in a relationship you are going to find out things about your partner that will surprise you and you won't like said things.

*Pulls down her panties* "Oh no...! She has a penis! >_< You lied to me! This relationship is through!"

[Caster13]

^If that happened to me I'd go to a bar and drink until I passed out. Then the next day check myself into the loony bin so I can get some immediate therapy and medication.

[minmae]

No, no, no.

Man, you need to get her back! Unless, you don't want to...do you? Well if you guys been together for 6 years then were you guys different for all those years? There must have been a big fight or annoying thing that happened.

Please do tell. :D

[fujyoshi]

*Pulls down her panties* "Oh no...! She has a penis! >_< You lied to me! This relationship is through!"

I'm sure thats not how it happened although that would be very strange

I say hit up the good stuff buddy :'D maybe you'll have to see another I only specialize in teh PHEELZ so I might not be able to help you ;p

[anime____4ever]

But.....she might've been wondering if you were ever going to settle down as well, if you were engaged for six years.

we were only engaged for a year out of the 6

@Desslock

yes, of course all the facts are not here. if i tried to tell everything thats going on, i would be typing all day.
i was just covering some of the basics.

the fact that we don't have hobbies to share, and the fact that she is starting to develope (out of nowhere it seems) gold-diggerish/materialistic ways.
those are 2 of the biggest glaring problems.

[goddessofanime]

*Pulls down her panties* "Oh no...! She has a penis! >_< You lied to me! This relationship is through!"

Care to share with the rest of the class what happened?:naughty:

[J Dude]

Care to share with the rest of the class what happened?:naughty:

Huh ha ha ha ha ha ha HAA! :lol: Nah, I've never had that happen to me, just throwing out a funny random event that could happen to somebody in response to what f2akid said. :lol:

[waltsoph3]

I belive this as a saying..

Money is a cold neccessity.

I agree with this OP guy. Life isn't just about the money in a relationship. Think of it like..The Chrismas Carol and scrooges's life. He had the money but what did he get out of it. Pretty much misery and stress untill he got a rude wake up call.

I see what it does to people in my life. To friends, and espically to relationships.
I also watch Tru TV's Dominick Dunne's Power,Previlige and Justice at times and just the ambition involved is just enough to make you pnoder..is it truly worth being rich and famous.....

Love is a precious thing. Worth treasuring more then money itself.

Still i hope you find happiness man. Being miserable is not a relationship worth staying in. But thats just me.

[goddessofanime]

To paraphase a phase I heard once:

'Love makes you do the wacky'.

[J Dude]

Sorry to throw a monkey wrench into the thread, but since we're on the topic of relationships, I'm thinking about asking out this girl at my work to go out and eat dinner with me. I've worked with her a few years, though we haven't really talked much. She's not exactly model material, but she's nice enough. I dunno why, but I just feel like I've been interested in her for the past week. Maybe I'm just feeling overly aroused lately.

[superplough]

Cant hurt to ask I guess, unless it hurts to be shot down with a resounding 'no'

[anime____4ever]

Sorry to throw a monkey wrench into the thread, but since we're on the topic of relationships, I'm thinking about asking out this girl at my work to go out and eat dinner with me. I've worked with her a few years, though we haven't really talked much. She's not exactly model material, but she's nice enough. I dunno why, but I just feel like I've been interested in her for the past week. Maybe I'm just feeling overly aroused lately.

i would say that unless you are REALLY into her, then don't ask her out.

if things go bad during the date, or during the beginning of the relationship, now you might feel akward at work.

im not saying "dont date people you work with". i'm just saying don't do it unless you REALLY like them. otherwise its not worth it.

[fujyoshi]

To paraphase a phase I heard once:

'Love makes you do the wacky'.

More like make a person retarded, see my brother on that one.

[VidelCoolGirl]

I'm agreeing with Dess on this one. I feel as if we're not getting the whole story. Remember, her being a Golddigger means she wants YOU to work, while she does nothing. If that's the case, then its something you could work out with counseling. Still, if she's the one working, then she's not a Golddigger. She's just at the point in life where she wants to be financially stable. This could stem from a poor childhood? I want to have a lot of money when I get older. Not because I love money, but after being poor all my life and currently in debt, it would be nice not to have to worry about my next rent check ever. Its not because I'm a 'golddigger,' but because I just like not having to worry.

Still, we've heard a couple of reasons (not good enough reasons it seems to warrant breaking up after six years) on her part. What were some of the problems on both sids? What were some of things she did? Details? What were things that she complained about you doing?

Still, I wonder how strong your relationship must have been in the first place, if you both are willing to break up after six years. Although, why weren't you married if you were engaged for six years?

[f2akid]

Sorry to throw a monkey wrench into the thread, but since we're on the topic of relationships, I'm thinking about asking out this girl at my work to go out and eat dinner with me. I've worked with her a few years, though we haven't really talked much. She's not exactly model material, but she's nice enough. I dunno why, but I just feel like I've been interested in her for the past week. Maybe I'm just feeling overly aroused lately.

Start talking to her. Then you can think about asking her out on a date.

[waltsoph3]

To paraphase a phase I heard once:

'Love makes you do the wacky'.

lol yeah I'll defently take that quote to heart to. :)

@ J Dude
Hey what do you got to lose. Go for it. You only have one life to live.
But might i sugest something. Instead of asking her out like its a date thing..why don't you 2 just go with the flo. Take her out on a friendly dinner first just to see what happens. Then hey if it works out go from there by asking her out on another night or w/e. Take it one step at a time. Thats probably the best advice i could give. Hope it helps and i wish ya luck.

[anime____4ever]

I'm agreeing with Dess on this one. I feel as if we're not getting the whole story.

of course......the entire story and ALL our problems is more detail than i care to go into.

Remember, her being a Golddigger means she wants YOU to work, while she does nothing.

imho, 100% not true. the example you just gave is of the worst case scenario golddigger. that was the fabled "golddiggerus maximus" you talked about. :P
there are different degrees to golddigging.
take my relationship for example.
85% of the reason she broke up w/ me is because i don't make enough money for her. that too is golddigging.

Still, if she's the one working, then she's not a Golddigger.

as i pointed out, not true. also, we both work.

She's just at the point in life where she wants to be financially stable. This could stem from a poor childhood? I want to have a lot of money when I get older. Not because I love money, but after being poor all my life and currently in debt, it would be nice not to have to worry about my next rent check ever. Its not because I'm a 'golddigger,' but because I just like not having to worry.

she does make more money than i do, however we are VERY financiall stable (i make about 55K a year she make about 70k). we have no problems at all with money, and have managed to save quite alot. the problem is she is greedy and wants more.

we've heard a couple of reasons (not good enough reasons it seems to warrant breaking up after six years) on her part. What were some of the problems on both sids? What were some of things she did? Details? What were things that she complained about you doing?

as i have said, i prefer not to go into ALL the details.

Still, I wonder how strong your relationship must have been in the first place, if you both are willing to break up after six years. Although, why weren't you married if you were engaged for six years?

engaged for only 1 of the 6 btw.
.....and yes, you are right. i guess the relationship wasn't very strong.
i thought she loved me for me, but i was wrong.

money and materialistic things are more important to her than love. so imo, that makes her a golddigger.

[waltsoph3]

50+K a year. Thats pretty sweet. I wish i made that much.

? For anime_4ever

Hey I'm sorry to pry this. Maybee it might put some closer to some.
I meen if its too much to answer its ok you don't have to.

About the engage thing..was it because of goverment issues or anything like that. I can defently understand that reason.

[Leader Desslock]

About the engage thing..was it because of goverment issues or anything like that. I can defently understand that reason.
I can't even fathom what you might be talking about. I don't have a guess.

What kind of 'government issues' would break up a six-year relationship, Walt?

[Bernard_Monsha]

What kind of 'government issues' would break up a six-year relationship, Walt?

The Ministry of Home Wrecking has been folded into the Ministry of Silly Walks under the Department of Homeland Security.

[goddessofanime]

50+K a year. Thats pretty sweet. I wish i made that much.

? For anime_4ever

Hey I'm sorry to pry this. Maybee it might put some closer to some.
I meen if its too much to answer its ok you don't have to.

About the engage thing..was it because of goverment issues or anything like that. I can defently understand that reason.

Stop thinking everything is a conspiracy Fox Mulder.

[blackknight]

I can't even fathom what you might be talking about. I don't have a guess.

What kind of 'government issues' would break up a six-year relationship, Walt?

Probably trying to ask whether one of them was a donkey and the other an elephant.

That's my guess, anyway. I don't know.

The Ministry of Home Wrecking has been folded into the Ministry of Silly Walks under the Department of Homeland Security.

Heh. I chuckled.

[waltsoph3]

Stop thinking everything is a conspiracy Fox Mulder.

Fox Mulder!? LOL LOL LOL LOL! I've heard some people say stop being like this or stop being like that. But i assure you i'm defently no Fox mulder..although the actor had charm with the ladies.lol

Btw guys the question was serious. Were talking about an unfortunate relationship going down the tubes right?

The OP guy did say money was one of the reasons for this break up. Why i asked about goverment..i'm talking about taxes,marrage tax bills, you know things everybody with jobs take into matter. I just wondered if that might have been a reason since we are talking about money.

I meen the more money you make..the more uncle sam takes from you right?

I don't take a persons misfortunes as a laughing matter here. I know what hes talking about with being used. :(

[Leader Desslock]

Why i asked about goverment..i'm talking about taxes,marrage tax bills, you know things everybody with jobs take into matter. I just wondered if that might have been a reason since we are talking about money.
In all of my trips around the sun, I have never once heard a couple argue with one another about how much they were being taxed.

The last break-up I remember reading about that involved taxation was when the 13 Colonies split from England. But there were other issues there. England didn't get along with the Colonies' friends, they didn't have many common interests, and England snored so loud the Colonies had to sleep in the next room. That relationship was doomed to fail, and I think they both knew it.

[DavenIII]

50+K a year. Thats pretty sweet. I wish i made that much.


all depends on where you live, in NYC you simply can not live on 50k as a single person, its not like, "oh you got to conserve to make ends meet", its, no, you can't even afford food and rent.

[Hara!]

all depends on where you live, in NYC you simply can not live on 50k as a single person, its not like, "oh you got to conserve to make ends meet", its, no, you can't even afford food and rent.

PROTIP: Live in Brooklyn, Queens, or The Bronx. For some reason, everything in Manhattan is expensive.

[superplough]

Man, 50k a year is like double what I get. Plus that's American so I have to nearly double it again.

Dont live in New York.

[Trefellin]

The Ministry of Home Wrecking has been folded into the Ministry of Silly Walks under the Department of Homeland Security.

In Canada, the work of all three of those agencies and more is done by the Ministry of Tomfoolery... With half the budget too.


It shouldn't really be surprising that his girl wants him to make more money. Most women will not marry down. Even if they don't realize it, most women still expect for a man to take care of them no matter how much they make themselves.

[DavenIII]

Man, 50k a year is like double what I get. Plus that's American so I have to nearly double it again.

Dont live in New York.

California too.

its something that bothers me.

Cause I kinda have it rough, but when people find out what I make, they go, well maybe you need to cut back here or there, and I'm like no, its got NOTHING to do with that.

If only I could get transferred, my cousin got a nice 3 bedroom house down in Florida for less then 1/4 I payed for a 1 bedroom condo :(

And thus the problem with taxing the "So called" Rich more then the "So Called" poor, the so called rich living in certain area's have a lower quality of life then the so called poor in other area's noone ever takes that into account though.

ANYHOW......

[Spike]

That sucks your breaking up but here is the thing she wants money? Then that's a flag to get the hell away from her no offense any girl who wants bigger house and nice car is a women I would stay away from.

[goddessofanime]

Fox Mulder!? LOL LOL LOL LOL! I've heard some people say stop being like this or stop being like that. But i assure you i'm defently no Fox mulder..although the actor had charm with the ladies.lol

(

He also went to rehab. For sex addiction.

[tenshi_a]

she does make more money than i do, however we are VERY financiall stable (i make about 55K a year she make about 70k). we have no problems at all with money, and have managed to save quite alot. the problem is she is greedy and wants more.

She makes more money than you, likes money a lot, and would be happier without you... implies that you're spending more of her money than your own. Since it's implied that breaking up with you is financially beneficial.

I bet it's all "geez, you spend too much money on anime. Can't you just watch fansubs? It'd be a lot cheaper. We could get a really nice car" :wub:, and you're all "NOOOO THAT'S EVIL!" [anger fury rage] :$%&#!:. Oh, the relationship, it broke.

Sorry, I'm being frivolous. But, I can imagine this scenario so easily! -_-;

[Nasjo01]

I'm to hear that dude. It really sux what just happen. my suggestion BE STRONG :)

your not to old for dating game 29 is still a young age :)

[fujyoshi]

Dont live in New York.

hey thats not nice I live in NY

Stop thinking everything is a conspiracy Fox Mulder.

only satou tawks in conspiracies o_o

She makes more money than you, likes money a lot, and would be happier without you... implies that you're spending more of her money than your own. Since it's implied that breaking up with you is financially beneficial.

I bet it's all "geez, you spend too much money on anime. Can't you just watch fansubs? It'd be a lot cheaper. We could get a really nice car" :wub:, and you're all "NOOOO THAT'S EVIL!" [anger fury rage] :$%&#!:. Oh, the relationship, it broke.

Sorry, I'm being frivolous. But, I can imagine this scenario so easily! -_-;

/heh that probably would phail and plus maybe the only time hes not stingy wit money is when he does buy anime stuff. Although nothing really wrong wit that because I'm pretty stingy wit money except for when it comes to anime. Not to say I spend everything in the world on it but when I do spend money it'd most likely be on anime.

your not to old for dating game 29 is still a young age :)

exactly why get laid when you can pleasure yourself by yourself :'D

[tenshi_a]

/heh that probably would phail and plus maybe the only time hes not stingy wit money is when he does buy anime stuff. Although nothing really wrong wit that because I'm pretty stingy wit money except for when it comes to anime. Not to say I spend everything in the world on it but when I do spend money it'd most likely be on anime.

Yeah, I guess it's not so much stinginess, it's... different financial goals.

People like us are quite happy to live in a glorified cardboard box, living on instant noodles and cereal, taking public transport, as long as we can spend all the rest of our hard-earned money on anime (er, except I spend more on video games these days).

The same situation arises for other people with obsessive hobbies, whether it's someone who skrimps and saves for shiny new car parts, or a train set, or whatever.

People without obsessive hobbies generally prefer to use their money on making their everyday home life more comfortable. I guess it must seem hard on them in a long term relationship, and they can't understand the drive that makes a person (in their eyes) give up a life of luxury for a single hobby.

[The Million Dollar Prons]

The same situation arises for other people with obsessive hobbies.... a train set,


HOW MANY LIVES WILL YOU RUIN BEFORE YOU HAD YOUR FILL, COMPETITION MODEL RAILROADING!!!

- prons

[f2akid]

The same situation arises for other people with obsessive hobbies, whether it's someone who skrimps and saves for shiny new car parts, or a train set, or drugs.

Fixed it for you.