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Spadesy
September 27th, 2008, 12:02 AM
Sad story...


Well, this sucks.

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Marine's widow hits U.S. visa snag

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By David Allen, Stars and Stripes
Pacific edition, Saturday, September 27, 2008



Courtesy of Hotaru Ferschke
Hotaru Nakama and Marine Sgt. Michael Fershke started dating in May, 2007. Last July they wed by proxy while Ferschke was deployed to Iraq, where he was killed a month later.
CAMP FOSTER, Okinawa — The phone call devastated Robin Ferschke, the mother of a Marine killed in Iraq.
Her Okinawan daughter-in-law, six months pregnant with the couple's child, tearfully called earlier this week and said she was having problems getting a residency visa to live in the United States.
"She was crying so hard, it was hard to understand what she was saying," Robin said in a telephone interview Thursday from her home in Maryville, Tenn. "She said she was told she could not get a visa because of something called the two-year rule."
Because of problems with fraudulent marriages, in 1986 Congress revised the rules for immigration through marriage, requiring foreigners to be married to U.S. citizens for at least two years before they can receive a residency visa.
The rule's goal was to ensure that the marriages are performed in good faith and not for immigration purposes.
But Hotaru Ferschke, 24, and Marine Sgt. Michael Ferschke Jr., 22, a radio operator with the 3rd Reconnaissance Battalion, 3rd Marine Division, had been married only one month before he was killed July 10 while conducting door-to-door searches in Iraq.
They were married by proxy while he was in Iraq, and the unusual circumstance has further complicated the issue. Although the couple had planned to eventually live in the United States, no paperwork for a residency visa had been prepared before the sergeant's death.
"Hota called me and said she tried to get the documents necessary for a visa, but she was told she had to wait," Robin said. "I said there was no way this was going to happen. I lost my son — I am not going to lose my grandson, too.
"We're going to get his done," she said.
A spokeswoman for the U.S. Consulate on Okinawa said Hotaru had an appointment there Thursday afternoon.
"After we check out her application, we will try to help her in whatever way we can," said Fuji Takayasu, a public affairs assistant for the consulate.
"There is a two-year rule," she acknowledged. "But if she cannot meet that qualification, there should be a way to get her visa. There are other ways of doing things."
Hotaru had decided to move to her husband's home after the baby, due in January, is born. She said she wanted to raise the child in the town where his father was raised, in the midst of his loving family.
"So that he would feel his father's presence," she told Stars and Stripes earlier this month. She had planned to give birth on Okinawa, but had changed her mind in recent weeks and wanted to have the child born in Tennessee.
"But we are not now sure we can do that," Robin said. "We don't know when the visa will be granted. If it takes too long, she'll be in the final months of her pregnancy, and the trip over here will be too risky."
Hotaru has declined any interviews concerning the visa problem.
"This was all so unexpected, it made her very nervous," Robin said. "She's still grieving for Michael and worried about the baby and doesn't want to talk to anyone.
"Michael's unit has rallied around her and is keeping the press away while they are trying to get everything ironed out. They are protecting her, taking her to places she needs to go and collecting the right information."
"The Marine Corps on Okinawa is working very closely with Mrs. Hota Ferschke and the U.S. Consulate in Okinawa to assist Mrs. Ferschke in the Visa application process," 1st Lt. Judd Wilson, media relations officer for Marine Corps Bases Japan, said in an e-mail response to a Stripes query.
"Mrs. Ferschke has not been denied any visa to the United States," he said. "This is a misunderstanding."
Added Wilson: "Marines take care of their own, and Mrs. Ferschke and her child are a part of the Marine Corps family,"
In the meantime, Robin is busy turning her son's room into a nursery for her grandchild.
"Hota is such a precious gift to us," she said. "She is giving up everything she's known in order to honor Michael's wishes. We are going to be ready to welcome her and Michael's son with open arms."

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Any opinions? I most definitely think the government should do everything in its power to take care of the wife and kid.

goddessofanime
September 27th, 2008, 05:27 AM
I agree.

Come on...she's a widow for God's sake. She's expecting; let her in.

Jatz
September 27th, 2008, 07:38 AM
I can understand why she wasn't let in before but now she can't be simply let in, paperwork must be filed.

Vaikyuko
September 27th, 2008, 08:30 AM
Legally speaking, she'd have to go another route, but...

Damn, that is just horrible. I feel really bad for her. I mean, not only does she lose her husband (and by extension, the child its father) only a month after marriage, but then she finds out she can't come in until she finds an alternate way? Not cool. Just...not cool.

Spadesy
September 27th, 2008, 05:38 PM
One of the guys I used to work for knew him personally. He worked up at Camp Schwab, fairly close to Nago. That's one of the most peaceful cities up there, not much military presence in the north. Probably where he met his wife too.

Shiroiyuki
September 29th, 2008, 02:45 AM
She should first apply for Mexican citizenship, it works.


They should also check to see if the baby is actually his or not. 'Married by proxy'....that sounds a little dodgy to me. Why not get married properly before being sent out? Why not decide to get married as soon as you return? Seems like a rush job.

Xhalen
September 29th, 2008, 03:03 AM
Not knowing exactly what the legislation states I'm wagering there's no special provision for those in the military.



They should also check to see if the baby is actually his or not. 'Married by proxy'....that sounds a little dodgy to me. Why not get married properly before being sent out? Why not decide to get married as soon as you return? Seems like a rush job.

Knowing how the military works, it's possible there wasn't enough time to get married before the orders came through. Not knowing how either of them felt about a baby being born out of wed-lock, I'm can't really wager a guess but I'm going to assume that the kid was his and he wanted to make sure he/she would be provided for if something were to happen to him.

Spadesy
September 29th, 2008, 03:14 AM
Knowing how the military works, it's possible there wasn't enough time to get married before the orders came through. Not knowing how either of them felt about a baby being born out of wed-lock, I'm can't really wager a guess but I'm going to assume that the kid was his and he wanted to make sure he/she would be provided for if something were to happen to him.

Damn straight. I got a good 15 day notice I was going to Hawaii to augment a unit to the sandbox. Sounds like a very likely story to me. Not all women who go with military men have their honey pot dipped into by another guy.

Edit: @Shiroiyuki...

Many guys prefer to marry just before or while they're in Iraq or Afghanistan, because they get an increase in pay for being married, and being in a combat zone - all that money you get is tax free. So tax-free-marriage-with-imminent-danger pay is quite bank for somebody of his age.

But who knows? Maybe their love grew when they were distant, it happens. We'll never know that detailed of a story though.

Caster13
September 29th, 2008, 12:07 PM
Bulls****. Just pure bull****.

SapperSix
September 30th, 2008, 02:22 AM
One of the guys I used to work for knew him personally. He worked up at Camp Schwab, fairly close to Nago. That's one of the most peaceful cities up there, not much military presence in the north. Probably where he met his wife too.

Hey I currently work up at Camp Schwab, but on another note it seems like a lot of the older Japanese women are trying to get hitched with the young Marines, because it ends up being a free ride to the States for them.

Spadesy
October 1st, 2008, 05:50 AM
Yep. I've noticed on some of the establishments on Gate 2 like Club Red, a lot of the women there will be like late 20s to early 30s. Then again, I guess there's nothing wrong with going with the older crowd. Young 20s are great but the great lot of them are too busy going to college while having a job to help pay for their loan/good time/whatever. Hell, I want a companion, not a dependent.