I just can't take it

[Ken-Ohki]

This is terribly emo of me and I'm sorry. In September my friend and roommate for 2 years was killed in a car accident. Two weeks ago my aunt died of cancer, I went to her funeral on Wednesday. This morning I get the call that my best friend was killed last night in a hang gliding accident. Everyone I know is dying. Just being one of those lame overly emotional guys looking for online sympathy. I've been crying all morning. Pathetic.

[MaliceDR]

Holy $#!*, man. You're not being emo if three of your close companions have been killed over the course of two months. That's not emo at all, that's just understandably sad. Crying in this situation is perfectly reasonable.

If you're going to cry though, do it for your recently dead friend and not for your sum of losses.

[Ariel Tsuki]

This is terribly emo of me and I'm sorry. In September my friend and roommate for 2 years was killed in a car accident. Two weeks ago my aunt died of cancer, I went to her funeral on Wednesday. This morning I get the call that my best friend was killed last night in a hang gliding accident. Everyone I know is dying. Just being one of those lame overly emotional guys looking for online sympathy. I've been crying all morning. Pathetic.

It's natural. Like 3 of my closest family members died within a 5 year span sucked hardcore, I was bummed out that I couldn't cry at my eldest uncle funeral. But you have to realize that's life and all and they wouldn't want you to be sad about it. Have a good cry because letting out grief is good thing right now and try to set up a time frame that you won't be depressed about these matters anymore and remember the good times you had. It helped with during both my uncles and my great-grandmother's deaths. Plus, it's ultra important to talk with someone about it, it'll hurt less to have someone to talk it out and comfort you.

I'm very sorry about your loss.

[Soluzar]

It's not so pathetic when you consider what you've been through lately. There's a lot of guys who go out looking for online sympathy based on a whole lot less. You've lost two close friends and a family member, don't be so rough on yourself. It's OK to grieve about this.

I admit, looking on the forums at AN for sympathy is not really the best thing. You're bound to get at least some flak here for what you've posted just because that's what some people do. They give people crap for whatever reason. It doesn't really matter. If it were me I might have turned to the people on my AIM buddy list or whatever form of IM program you use. There's nothing wrong with looking for support from your friends on the internet, but look in the right place.

The right place would be with people you know in a private setting where you won't have to put up with people trying to give you a hard time for what you're going through. You've been here for a while, so I assume you know plenty of people. You were here for a good year and a half before I was, according to that profile of yours. Stick to your buddies, don't give people a chance to try and make you feel worse. There's always someone who is willing to be a big enough jerk.

I'm sorry for your losses. I don't really know you, but I'm sure things will eventually get better in your life. You've had a really rough time just lately, but pain doesn't last forever. It gets a bit less every day, and then eventually... it's just not there anymore.

[GreatNekoKoneko]

... do it out of AN, man. just go and cry. it really helps.

but not here. log off, son.

[Animematt55]

that sucks man. You have no reason not to be sad. That call this morning must of been the one that really broke you down.
All i can say is, have a good cry, go do something to take your mind off it.

[Tuna]

It's okay...you have good reason...
*patpat*

They say that these things happen in 3's...so at least it should be over...
o.o;

[fujyoshi]

dont worry I'm sure if I had close friends 'a mine die it was devastate me alot.

[goddessofanime]

I had that type of year about four years ago when my grandmother(whom I practically raised me) died, my great-uncle(that lived with us until he had to go into a home) died, my aunt died, my other great uncle died and a close friend died.What got me thru it was a lot of work, time with friends and strangely enough, just a lot of hobbies.

You'll be okay. Just try not to focus on your loss and pain. I know it's corny and hard, but it worked out for me.

[DazzleKitty]

If anyone calls you emo for crying over things like that, they are truly a moron. People close to you have died for goodness sake! You should be able to cry all you want for as long as you want.
I think it's sad that many people are pressured into being "strong" and not crying. Crying helps and it's not a weakness.

[Tidusauron12]

It's not so pathetic when you consider what you've been through lately. There's a lot of guys who go out looking for online sympathy based on a whole lot less.

COUGHHARO!COUGH

:lol:

[Fobb]

... do it out of AN, man. just go and cry. it really helps.

but not here. log off, son.

Yup. The internet is no place to mourn.

[Evil_Koala]

Don't become an hero just yet!

I aint bein insensitive or nothin but...True Spartans don't show emotion...That sucks though, dude. Fo' sho.

[VidelCoolGirl]

Pretty sensitive topic guys. Keep the haha jokes to a low sa' right?

[Evil_Koala]

Pretty sensitive topic guys. Keep the haha jokes to a low sa' right?

Yes ma'am, I was just trying to sooooooothe the pain and maybe lighten the mood while simultaneously sympathizing with mi amigo.

[SaMaster14]

wow, I feel really bad for you. I really hope everything goes ok.

[Lord Timaeus]

True Spartans don't have emotion

Fixed. God, 300 sucked...

Anyway, I believe I said in an RPG forum not long ago, "Only in the end can there be a new beginning." Even if you don't have religious beliefs, this is still true to everyone. From my experience I don't believe in mourning over losses, for I believe everyone, in one way or another, becomes legendary in death. Rather, a person's death should be a time for those who knew him/her to honor their memories in the way he/she would have wanted. I don't expect this to help, but it's just a thought.

[Ken-Ohki]

Thanks guys, this place always makes me happy which is why I came here a couple hours after the news. I was hoping to feel better and looking for sympathy. I spent the day with friends and we talked a lot. Funeral tomorrow.

[tenshi_a]

Glad to see you're doing better today, Ken-Ohki. The moment I read your post yesterday I thought, oh that poor guy, but... I decided not to say anything in case I accidentally said the wrong thing. You seem to be able to cope with all this far better than I would!

[Soluzar]

You seem to be able to cope with all this far better than I would!
I'm going to have to second that statement. I'm really glad you're doing OK Ken-Ohki. You've been through a lot lately, and you're coping with it far better than I would in your position.

[Ikari Warrior]

Thanks guys, this place always makes me happy which is why I came here a couple hours after the news. I was hoping to feel better and looking for sympathy. I spent the day with friends and we talked a lot. Funeral tomorrow.

You have my condolances, as well. It's not emo to mourn the loss of a loved one, particularly three loved ones in the course of two months. I can't imagine what you're going through right now, but do your best to bear through it. It will get better; your life is just hitting a rocky point right now.