Problem with my best friend

[animeotaku99]

OK, I just really need a bit of advice and to vent....
I have a friend that I consider my best friend, we get a long great, we both like anime and have known each other since high school and became even better friends after graduating. THe problem is he, a few months ago he got a new girlfriend and nobody else can stand her. She is opinionated, annoying to be around and needs her boyfriends attention all the time, and I believe mentally unstable. (and I think she is burned out from past drug use)
I have tried to be friends with her and put up afriendly front when she is around but I just want to throw her out the door or smack her.
SO my friend feels the need to bring her EVERYWHERE he goes, including to our apartment when we want to watch anime (which she says she likes but is not hat much of a fan and has a short attention span so we always stop early) He brings her dispite the fact that we invited him not her. So we made plans to go to ANimeIowa which we ust got back from, and he immediately asks her if she wants to go, she says yes of course because HE is going. And she completely ruined the trip for my and my brother I wanted to have so much fun with my best friend who I had not seen for a while because he was away interning. That lasted for almost 4 days.
I could tell everyone was angry at some point in the trip and I was almost tempted to checkout early and make everyone go home.
anyways, I feel like I am losing a long time and very treasured friendship to some skanky ho. And that is the worse thing in the world that could happen to e right now. I don't want to lose my bestfriend... I want to talk to him about it but I'm not good at that type of thing which is my I have been trying to hide the way I feel about her.
oh on a side note I also had the joy of them sneakiong into the bathroom at the con to bang one out. yuck
any advice? anyone else have this problem before?

[Neo0tak0n]

quit bein a ***** and move on

[Pariah]

If you're actually good friends with this guy, then tell him that you don't really get on with his gf, and ask him not to invite her to EVERYTHING that you invite him to. If he gets all pissy about it, tell him he's a ***** and move on. He'll be the douchebag for ruining the friendship, not you.

[animeotaku99]

If you're actually good friends with this guy, then tell him that you don't really get on with his gf, and ask him not to invite her to EVERYTHING that you invite him to. If he gets all pissy about it, tell him he's a ***** and move on. He'll be the douchebag for ruining the friendship, not you.

Yeah... I've been thinking about what to say to him. HE is still in the CIties for his internship for another week so I think it will be easier to tell him via IM the in person.
I should add that the only way I could stand to be around this girl at the con was 10MG of hydrocodone a day

[Bernard_Monsha]

So let me get this strait you call her a crack-head skank-ho but you are running around popping Vicodins like candy? -_-;

[Animematt55]

So let me get this strait you call her a crack-head skank-ho but you are running around popping Vicodins like candy? -_-;

she is 28 years old. She acts like she is twelve. She is living rent free at his house, has no sense of responsibility. Pouts and cries when she doesnt get her way.....Who wouldnt want to be on drugs around her?

[animeotaku99]

So let me get this strait you call her a crack-head skank-ho but you are running around popping Vicodins like candy? -_-;

HEy Steven COlbert Does it and he just as a broken wrist

[master terrence]

I was in the exact same situation, but with different people. Me and my friends kept calling my friend a ***** (he really was being her *****) and he eventually broke up with her. She was a kill joy.

[Animematt55]

I was in the exact same situation, but with different people. Me and my friends kept calling my friend a ***** (he really was being her *****) and he eventually broke up with her. She was a kill joy.

How is this....
At the con. She wanted to go get food (she had her left over hippy food which she didnt want). So she got pouty that I didn't want to drive them to get food. I am at the con to have fun.
We are thinking of just telling him to stop bringing her everywhere.
Heck, if I had a nearly 30 year old girlfriend who couldn't take care of herself, I would dump her in no time.

[Neo0tak0n]

confusion:

animeotaku99=animematt55?

[Animematt55]

animeotaku99=animematt55?

brothers....where've you been?

[master terrence]

How is this....


I can't get into detail. If you're sick of her, eventually your friend will be too.

[Neo0tak0n]

^ not necessarily. the friend is getting some. the friends of the friend are not.

[Caine]

I'd ahave to agree with pariah. don't force the friend to choose, but ask him to not have her everywhere. Try to do it when you're both sober. If you get truly desperate, try talking to her. Barring a miracle, it will fail, but like i said, this is only if you're very desperate.

[Holy Knight]

Then talk to him about it? That's the only thing that you can do. He probably won't be letting her go for a while until he wisens up (if he ever does at all), so keep the anger bottled until then.

Lay out the situation to him and explain how everyone feels around her. He'll probably protest and be in denial, so emphasize the point just enough so that you can have a "I told you so" moment later on. Be aware of the breaking point and don't exacerbate it, this is something he'll have to think through so the only thing you can do is wait once you've talked to him about it.

[animeotaku99]

Someone needs to explain to him the "broz before hos" philosophy

[JoeStrummer]

^ Heh, you honestly think that works half the time? He's gettin' some, he probably won't change anytime soon

[Zash]

Actually I was in the same situation as you animeotaku. My friend and I got along so well for the whole time we were in university. But the last 3 months before graduation, he gets a girlfriend. I have to say, she is quite the witch with a capital B. She doesnt even try talking to me though and she always rolls her eyes when I make jokes with other friends. Minus everything, she's not even 5 feet tall. She always walked between me and my friend even when I was standing and just talking to him. She always came with him everywhere, and it just sucked big. All my other friends started to hate her too so eventaully I confronted him about it telling him how i didn't really like being around her all the time.....and the result..well we're not really friends anymore. It seems he finds his 4 month girlfriend more important than a friend he's had for 4 years. I actually saw him at the movies with his girlfriend and her friends. It was really akward when we saw each other, but he didn't really talk to me. So, lesson learned from my story, if he's really ur best bud, he'll listen and won't take offense in what you have to say, or he'll just screw u over.

[Animematt55]

Actually I was in the same situation as you animeotaku. My friend and I got along so well for the whole time we were in university. But the last 3 months before graduation, he gets a girlfriend. I have to say, she is quite the witch with a capital B. She doesnt even try talking to me though and she always rolls her eyes when I make jokes with other friends. Minus everything, she's not even 5 feet tall. She always walked between me and my friend even when I was standing and just talking to him. She always came with him everywhere, and it just sucked big. All my other friends started to hate her too so eventaully I confronted him about it telling him how i didn't really like being around her all the time.....and the result..well we're not really friends anymore. It seems he finds his 4 month girlfriend more important than a friend he's had for 4 years. I actually saw him at the movies with his girlfriend and her friends. It was really akward when we saw each other, but he didn't really talk to me. So, lesson learned from my story, if he's really ur best bud, he'll listen and won't take offense in what you have to say, or he'll just screw u over.

That sucks man. Very similar situation indeed.
This is why I hate girls. Just cant get a long with them. WOmen all the way. More mature, intelligent, can take care of themselves, and most wont mind you spending time alone with your friends.
Just remember, it isn't age that makes you a woman. It is how you act.

[Sendo Takeshi]

and most wont mind you spending time alone with your friends.



Heh, marriage is gonna suck for you when you discover that harsh truth. Good luck with that.

Oh, and stop *****ing. Your situation can be manhandled in a matter of words. If he takes it the wrong way, then screw him. You don't need him in the long run. Bros before hos. Haven't you learned? Hasn't he learned?

[VidelCoolGirl]

I swear, it almost seems as if you're gay for your friend. Get over it, she's a chick, and he's getting some. Why you gotta be such a stickler about it? You want a mature woman, yet you're complaining about a grown man not spending all his time with you. Sounds pretty immature to me.

[Sendo Takeshi]

I swear, it almost seems as if you're gay for your friend. Get over it, she's a chick, and he's getting some. Why you gotta be such a stickler about it? You want a mature woman, yet you're complaining about a grown man not spending all his time with you. Sounds pretty immature to me.


He's simply a hater.

[GreatNekoKoneko]

...don't hate on a brotha that's gettin tail, man. even if he IS your best friend. he'll eventually get tired of her sh|t and move on to discover more and varied kinds of tail.

she is what we call, a chickenhead.

[VidelCoolGirl]

He's drinking the Hateerade.

http://img472.imageshack.us/img472/838/hateradeii3.gif

[GreatNekoKoneko]

He's drinking the Hateerade.

http://img472.imageshack.us/img472/838/hateradeii3.gif

...what. no purple Hateerade? THAT'S RACIST!

[Chousho]

...don't hate on a brotha that's gettin tail, man. even if he IS your best friend. he'll eventually get tired of her sh|t and move on to discover more and varied kinds of tail.

she is what we call, a chickenhead.
bawk bawk, chicken chicken, bawk bawk chickenhead (http://youtube.com/watch?v=BvaExDwQ5cU)

[GreatNekoKoneko]

bawk bawk, chicken chicken, bawk bawk chickenhead (http://youtube.com/watch?v=BvaExDwQ5cU)

...my thoughts exactly.

[VidelCoolGirl]

Grape is right next to the Lemon! Geez man, I thought you knew better than that.

Anyway, yeah, let him live his own life. If he hasn't broken up with her already, he must have some feelings for her. Don't try to control his love life, just because outside of him, you may not have one. Perhaps focus more on getting a girlfriend instead of breaking up others?

[GreatNekoKoneko]

Grape is right next to the Lemon! Geez man, I thought you knew better than that.

Anyway, yeah, let him live his own life. If he hasn't broken up with her already, he must have some feelings for her. Don't try to control his love life, just because outside of him, you may not have one. Perhaps focus more on getting a girlfriend instead of breaking up others?

...but THAT is not purple. that's some Purple-wannabe.

has to be sugar, water, and purple. oh, and a dash of HATE.

[Gray]

Yes, instead of trying to solve the problem yourself, you should ask countless people you dont know on an anime forum for advice in your life.

Smart move :thumbsup:

[Tidusauron12]

Yes, instead of trying to solve the problem yourself, you should ask countless people you dont know on an anime forum for advice in your life.

Smart move :thumbsup:

Oh... Damn. That was harsh, but true.

QFT.

[goddessofanime]

brothers....where've you been?


I missed this one...you're brothers?

OT:

Animeotaku: Take your friend aside and just tell him honestly (yet tactfully) that you would prefer that he leave his girlfriend behind when you invite him along somewhere. A good friend would understand, and a good girlfriend would understand when her man wants some time with his boys.

[Midoriko87]

I missed this one...you're brothers?

Identical twins, at that. Don't you people click on the links in persons' signatures (click on the link in animeotaku's signature)? The guy in the middle is animeotaku's friend... Hmm, that picture is very insightful. :P Oh! You guys know I'm kidding!!

Yes, instead of trying to solve the problem yourself, you should ask countless people you dont know on an anime forum for advice in your life.

Smart move :thumbsup:

You forget, Midoriko resides here!! I will save this thread!!

Anywho, everyone's all "he's getting some" (losers), so the question is: Exactly how desperate is your friend? I mean, how many girls has he been involved with and is he really a person women find attractive (looks, personality, money, etc.)? Also, is he a cool rational guy? You know, who wouldn't just go nuts about you guys not liking his girlfriend?

If the answers to these questions are DESPERATE and NOT ALL THAT COOL, I'd just avoid saying anything to him... I mean, if you really want to hold onto to this friend so badly.

[HSaabedra]

Take your friend aside and just tell him honestly (yet tactfully) that you would prefer that he leave his girlfriend behind when you invite him along somewhere. A good friend would understand, and a good girlfriend would understand when her man wants some time with his boys.

Best girlfriend ever. If all women thought this way, we'd have less issues in the world.

[animeotaku99]

Animeotaku: Take your friend aside and just tell him honestly (yet tactfully) that you would prefer that he leave his girlfriend behind when you invite him along somewhere. A good friend would understand, and a good girlfriend would understand when her man wants some time with his boys.

Yeah, I hope to be able to talk to him soon. I have class tonight, so I dont think I'll get a chance unless Animematt says something. I also hope he is cool about it

[Animematt55]

Best girlfriend ever. If all women thought this way, we'd have less issues in the world.

If we put locks on our kitchens way back when, we wouldn't have any problems.

That is obviously a joke :P I will deal with it later. Right now I am too tired.

[{NG}Fidel]

Damn some of you are pretty harsh.
Honestly she sounds like a waste of time but it seems that you understand its his GF and his choice. Yet when you invite HIM somewhere and just want to hang with him she should lay off some of the time.
Those two are just dating and to tag along all the ****ing time is a pretty annoying thing for both you and I would imagine him. My girl friend and I know that we each need our own space. Even married couples need to be allowed to be with their friends alone some times.
I say tell him what your feeling about his GF. Keep it very subtle but not *****y subtle. Just dont be an outright **** about it. Explain to him that you simply want to hang out with him only sometimes and that brining the GF everywhere is just plain annoying. I mean thats like a first time realationship thing.

[Hybrid Shock]

Someone needs to explain to him the "broz before hos" philosophy

that philosophy fails in the real world

real world: broz before hos unless you're getting some. don't tell me this ain't true.. you'd rather go out with your mates than get laid?

his girlfriend, his choice. but that shouldn't stop you being a ***** and not talking to him about it

[Sendo Takeshi]

that philosophy fails in the real world

real world: broz before hos unless you're getting some. don't tell me this ain't true.. you'd rather go out with your mates than get laid?



Yeah, because a 10 year friendship holds no weight to a piece of random flesh that you meet on the street any given day.

Bros before hos always works. What happens when the chick decides to up and leave you? What then? After abandoning your friends for some chick that ends up cheating on you, where do you go? Obviously you can't go back to those same friends because now you'd just come off us as an idiot because you chose some random female over life-long friends.

But, I can see that you put ***** on a pedestal.

[VidelCoolGirl]

I wish the bros before hos deal worked with women too. Keep in mind, I don't care if guys hang out with other guys for fun, but you gotta balance it. (Its almost as if so many guys want their women to be complete doormats, and they're the perfect girlfriend. Damn, here I thought men wanted a woman with a good backbone. ((Sexual puns not needed)) )

[GreatNekoKoneko]

I. Damn, here I thought men wanted a woman with a good back bone. ((Sexual puns not needed)) )

...fixed for your viewing pleasure.

[Bernard_Monsha]

Yeah, because a 10 year friendship holds no weight to a piece of random flesh that you meet on the street any given day.

Bros before hos always works. What happens when the chick decides to up and leave you? What then? After abandoning your friends for some chick that ends up cheating on you, where do you go? Obviously you can't go back to those same friends because now you'd just come off us as an idiot because you chose some random female over life-long friends.

But, I can see that you put ***** on a pedestal.

Be honest, Bro's before ho's only works when she ain't the baby momma or you can double dip on the side.

[Zash]

It seems to me, that my friend and his are just experiencing something new and they don't know how to deal with friends and a girlfriend. Those kinda ppl usually don't have many guy friends later when their gf's dump em. Personally, if a friend is like that, then I'd rather not be a friend with em and save myself the trouble.

[Animematt55]

Be honest, Bro's before ho's only works when she ain't the baby momma or you can double dip on the side.

That is only if you WANT to double dip on the side. I cant afford the examinations after the fact.

[Hybrid Shock]

Yeah, because a 10 year friendship holds no weight to a piece of random flesh that you meet on the street any given day.

Bros before hos always works. What happens when the chick decides to up and leave you? What then? After abandoning your friends for some chick that ends up cheating on you, where do you go? Obviously you can't go back to those same friends because now you'd just come off us as an idiot because you chose some random female over life-long friends.

But, I can see that you put ***** on a pedestal.

I don't put ***** on a pedestal. It ain't worth it. Not anymore when even the though of falling in love again hurts too damn much...

As much as i wish it was bros before hoes, i've been there and done that, both sides... If they're madly in love (or even think their madly in love when it's really their hormones that are doing the talking), it's not going to be bros before hoes, no matter what you want to happen.

Chance are it's his first real g/f (or the first one that puts out). he's head over heels about her which is why he's bringing her everywhere (or he just doesn't want her too far so he can get some asap). Between the lovey dovey comments outside the brackets, and the cynical comments inside teh brackets, the truth is somewhere there....

Either way, he's not thinking bros before hoes. If he's not seeing the frustration from his friends which are pretty evident, then he has only eyes for her

Sure, he's your best friend, and you've had that 10 year long friendship with him, but you're not looking at it from his perspective. his perspective isn't "oh, we've been friends for 10 years, bros before hoes man". That's clear to see as it is. right now, his head will be somewhere between "i love her, i want her to be a part of my life, all of it, and i don't care what anyone else would say" and "i'm horny, she puts out all the time". Admittedly, i don't know these people and don't know where on the line they are, but with his bringing round a girl that gets up everyone's noses, his head ain't thinking bros before hoes

And yes, i have seen friends pass by a friendship that's almost 10 years (and a lot of hardships within that time) for a nice piece of ***... As i've said, been there, done that, rebuilding my friendships that i've missed out on since (hense why i'm back here)

[The Million Dollar Prons]

Getting laid comes before all.

srry

[Haro!]

Getting laid comes before all.

srry

Kind of true.

I didn't bother reading everything but, if your friend's girl is hot, let them be.

[Evil_Koala]

Put a hit on her.

oh on a side note I also had the joy of them sneakiong into the bathroom at the con to bang one out. yuck
any advice? anyone else have this problem before?

Did you think of her while you did it?

[Nano]

you give it to him instead then he can dump the girl.

If you two were such good friends he'd consider what you think about his new girl friends befoe dating them. He'd still hit it, only it'd be a one night stand thing til he found a cool girl.

[Rurouni Saiyan]

With friends like Prons and Haro!, who needs friends? :)

[Nano]

With friends like Prons and Haro!, who needs friends? :)

Me, I do.

..

[seba_boi]

Maybe you're in love with him...

[Headcrab]

OK, I just really need a bit of advice and to vent....
I have a friend that I consider my best friend, we get a long great, we both like anime and have known each other since high school and became even better friends after graduating. THe problem is he, a few months ago he got a new girlfriend and nobody else can stand her. She is opinionated, annoying to be around and needs her boyfriends attention all the time, and I believe mentally unstable. (and I think she is burned out from past drug use)
I have tried to be friends with her and put up afriendly front when she is around but I just want to throw her out the door or smack her.
SO my friend feels the need to bring her EVERYWHERE he goes, including to our apartment when we want to watch anime (which she says she likes but is not hat much of a fan and has a short attention span so we always stop early) He brings her dispite the fact that we invited him not her. So we made plans to go to ANimeIowa which we ust got back from, and he immediately asks her if she wants to go, she says yes of course because HE is going. And she completely ruined the trip for my and my brother I wanted to have so much fun with my best friend who I had not seen for a while because he was away interning. That lasted for almost 4 days.
I could tell everyone was angry at some point in the trip and I was almost tempted to checkout early and make everyone go home.
anyways, I feel like I am losing a long time and very treasured friendship to some skanky ho. And that is the worse thing in the world that could happen to e right now. I don't want to lose my bestfriend... I want to talk to him about it but I'm not good at that type of thing which is my I have been trying to hide the way I feel about her.
oh on a side note I also had the joy of them sneakiong into the bathroom at the con to bang one out. yuck
any advice? anyone else have this problem before?

Heres the thing Suzie, I know some girl is hugging all over your boy toy, and you want that hot hot man chowder, but why don't ya just grow a pair? And then you can have your own dong you can play with. Im sorry about that, my inner Dr. Cox ( http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Perry_Cox ) just wanted to tell you that.:P

[Nano]

Heres the thing Suzie, I know some girl is hugging all over your boy toy, and you want that hot hot man chowder, but why don't ya just grow a pair? And then you can have your own dong you can play with. Im sorry about that, my inner Dr. Cox ( http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Perry_Cox ) just wanted to tell you that.:P

Well now barbie, the proob,lem, with that joke is well, sarcasium JUST dooesn't go that well on the internet. Who knew?

[Headcrab]

Well now barbie, the proob,lem, with that joke is well, sarcasium JUST dooesn't go that well on the internet. Who knew?

WRONG, Barbie is Cox's nickname for Dr. Elliot, not JD as I was referring to him as.
and its Sarcasm.
Is a Sarcasium some place they store historically bad jokes??

[Animematt55]

Heres the thing Suzie, I know some girl is hugging all over your boy toy, and you want that hot hot man chowder, but why don't ya just grow a pair? And then you can have your own dong you can play with. Im sorry about that, my inner Dr. Cox ( http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Perry_Cox ) just wanted to tell you that.:P

You win. Thread over. Good night.

[Headcrab]

You win. Thread over. Good night.

Anything from the Cox is instant win.

[animeotaku99]

Let me add that I got along fine with his last girlfriend, too bad she broke up with him.
and I talked to him a bit last night and so hopefully he will stop dragging his GF around everywhere with us

[guyverfanboy]

OK, I just really need a bit of advice and to vent....
I have a friend that I consider my best friend, we get a long great, we both like anime and have known each other since high school and became even better friends after graduating. THe problem is he, a few months ago he got a new girlfriend and nobody else can stand her. She is opinionated, annoying to be around and needs her boyfriends attention all the time, and I believe mentally unstable. (and I think she is burned out from past drug use)
I have tried to be friends with her and put up afriendly front when she is around but I just want to throw her out the door or smack her.
SO my friend feels the need to bring her EVERYWHERE he goes, including to our apartment when we want to watch anime (which she says she likes but is not hat much of a fan and has a short attention span so we always stop early) He brings her dispite the fact that we invited him not her. So we made plans to go to ANimeIowa which we ust got back from, and he immediately asks her if she wants to go, she says yes of course because HE is going. And she completely ruined the trip for my and my brother I wanted to have so much fun with my best friend who I had not seen for a while because he was away interning. That lasted for almost 4 days.
I could tell everyone was angry at some point in the trip and I was almost tempted to checkout early and make everyone go home.
anyways, I feel like I am losing a long time and very treasured friendship to some skanky ho. And that is the worse thing in the world that could happen to e right now. I don't want to lose my bestfriend... I want to talk to him about it but I'm not good at that type of thing which is my I have been trying to hide the way I feel about her.
oh on a side note I also had the joy of them sneakiong into the bathroom at the con to bang one out. yuck
any advice? anyone else have this problem before?

It's true that when you are in a relationship you spend a lot of time with your significant other, but this is rather redicilous. I was in the same situation with one of my buddies and while his ex-girlfriend was not a beeyotch, she was rather... annoying. Hell one of my other buddies just COULD NOT STAND her at all. Thankfully, he wised up and broke up with her. So in other words....

TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT IT! NO BEATING AROUND THE BUSH EITHER!

[KyouryokuSenshi]

It's good to remember that unfortunately people can change for the worse. I have had friends like that also. No one can tell you what to do, but it's good to keep in mind that couples do indeed spend a lot of time together. If they just started dating, it wouldn't be as much as two people who live together. However, you're friend needs to realize that sometimes it is okay to just have guy time and in the meantime his girlfriend can go out with her friends. It's normal for any relationship, you can't be glued 50% of the time. If you really feel strongly about the situation, you should tell your friend how you feel and that sometimes you just want to have a guys night out or something.

[guyverfanboy]

brothers....where've you been?

Been here for years and I did not know this. @_@

[Nano]

Is a Sarcasium some place they store historically bad jokes??

it's even worse you think it's sig worthy.....

[Fobb]

Maybe you're in love with him...

=O!!!!


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