Friends Advice

[minmae]

Guys. Guys. I need advice for my friend!!! And no, it's not me, seriously. She tells me her problems, and I need good advice. Plzzz.

Here's the problem:

Okay my friend. There was two guys that were bestfriends. There was a guy1 and a guy2. Let's name guy1, Bob, and the guy2, Jack. My friend dated Bob first, because he asked her. But she really then she really liked Jack and she didn't know Jack likes her back. She wasn't sure. So she asked Bob, for a "break." So that meant, time off. So Bob, got mad. And then broke up with her. Then later on...things got cool. Then Jack asked my friend out, and they became happy, even Bob was in for it. But then alot of little fight went on between, Bob and my freind. So they weren't friends anymore. But Jack and Bob are still bestfriends. So over the summer it was going okay. Jack and my friend had little fights. Jack went to the phillipines. after 2 weeks he came back. Few days latr, he broked up with her. And then she walked to his house to have a sec. chance. And she got it. But then, few days later he broked up with her, again. Jack said he just wants to be friends. Bob had something to do with this. He said to Jack that my friend was chaeting on him. Jack believed. Bob said this maybe because to get revenge to my friend, and he doesn't like her. And a stupidguyfriend of my friend's, kept sending a pic of him and my friend together. So I guess he ruined it too. But yeah. My friend kept calling me, but I didn't have time. And now, that school started, she told me ALOT. I try to help. I want to help. She really loves Jack. And I feel sorry for her. She's like a baby sister to me because I always act like an older sister in school. SO yeah. I need advice. She thinks it's her fault, but I say it's not. And I say, she shouldn't be sorry, he should be. I got piss. That's why me and and my friend, go hang out with a diff. crew, because Jack and Bob and their crew. (we used to hang out with.) My friend says that Jack keeps ignoring her. And when she says hi or try to talk to him, he just says, "Hi," or "I don't know." I don't want to assume, but Bob, always tells off secrets to "the" group. So I bet he told them all the things that happened over the summer. Because the first day of school, I walked to eat there, it was okay, but then when my friend came over they wanted to walk around. I said "HEY, WAIT GUYS!" So they listened. So yeah, I need help for my friend. So pleasee!! I hope it's more clear.

[Reidar]

Shoot him.

[minmae]

I would but I don't a gun.

[Shiroiyuki]

Umm.....stay in school?

Sorry, I got lost somewhere between 'boyfriend2' and 'ex-boyfriend2'. I couldn't make it past the first few sentences...sorry.....


I suggest editing your post and making the apparent problem a lot clearer to those who stumble into this thread. If you want advice, you need to make sure other people can understand what you are saying.

[The Million Dollar Prons]

I drink because this thread.

[Rain]

I have no clue what you just said, but shooting someone sounds like a plan.

What's with all that boyfriend1, bf2 etc. number jazz?

[Leader Desslock]

Everybody needs to drink the Kool-aid at once, and whatever problems you're describing will go away. (I couldn't decipher the original post)

[SabakuKuniGaara]

Here's a more comprehensive version of the original post (as I see it):

1.Friend goes out with Bob
2.Friend doesn't like the relationship
3.Friend and Bob break up
4.Friend goes out with Jack
5.Bob and Jack are best friends
6.Bob is cool with relationship of Friend and Jack at first
7.Friend and Bob start not liking each other at all
8.Bob tells Jack that Friend is cheating on him
9.Friend and Jack break up, give each other a second chance, then break up again
10.Bob, Jack and their posse don't hang out with Friend and Minmae
11.Bob, Jack, and their posse all believe Bob's story
12.Friend is madly in love with Jack
13.Minmae wants to help
14.Minmae posts semi-intelligable thread on AN asking for help

[kiyomi]

Thanks for that DL Sabaku.

Okay, Min., here's what I suggest you do.

Get your friend to see that there are bigger and better guys out there for her, OTHER than the retard JACK.

Jack needs to be seriously "Jacked-up" and I'd like to be the person who makes that boy see that the universe does not revolve around his sorry butt, by introducing him to my best friend Mr. Tire Iron.

But since I can't do that, then just take my advice and get your friend out and socialize with a better group of people. And introduce her to new guys. If you don't know any other guys, then I suggest talking to her about the finer points in life..such as her good qualities and how she could best give those special qualities and attention to a guy who will treat her right.

And if that doesn't work, then I shall be happy to introduce Jack to some well deserved Iron.

[SabakuKuniGaara]

Jack needs to be seriously "Jacked-up" and I'd like to be the person who makes that boy see that the universe does not revolve around his sorry butt, by introducing him to my best friend Mr. Tire Iron.

Word.




Seriously, though, if that Jack dude believed this crap and was blind enough not to see through Bob's actions, he doesn't deserve your friend.

[Midoriko87]

Things You (Minmae) Could Do For Yourself and/or Your Friend.

1) Well, Bob and Jack and the Crew don't seem to have a problem with you. If you wanna be a total salty female dog approximately 9" at the Withers, you could drop Your Friend like a newborn Giraffe (lame, I know) and continue to hang with the Old Posse.
2) Tell Your Friend to get over Jack. He DOESN'T want her. Tell her to her face: HE DOES NOT WANT YOU! In fact, she needs to stop trying to be cool with Bob, Jack and Crew. It doesn't matter what Bob may've said, or to whom Your Friend's stupid guy friend may've sent pictures. Not saying it's Your Friend's fault, but It is what It is. Although, I'm curious. What were Your Friend and her stupid guy friend doing in those pictures? I mean, not like DOING, but you know, doing... And, let's clarify. Your Friend's stupid guy friend sent these pictures to Jack and/or Crew, non? Still, Your Friend's stupid guy friend sending pictures of himself and Your Friend to Jack? That's sayin' somethin' LOUD... so, I guess it doesn't matter what the two were doing, not DOING. If he sent those pictures to Jack, that is.

Of course, if you would like Your Friend to continue friending with the Crew, you need to approach them and ask why are they ignoring Your Friend. And, if you sincerely believe that she's not In the Wrong, defend her. Of course, you risk losing the friendship of the Crew, because it kinda seems like they value Jack's friendship over Your Friend's, and well, if you Side with her... STICKY!

As for your friend, she's kinda, um, well she's somethin'... She needs to start lookin' for new friends and gettin' over Jack. Still, I'm sure it'll be very difficut... VERY difficult. Or, she can wait for to things blow over... Would I wait? No. But, that's just me.

[The Million Dollar Prons]

I'm a Detective. Ya know the drill, I outline the case and then I solve it.

From what I gather, this situation could be solved by a sex orgy.

Case closed.

[Nano]

Get bigger friend to punch guy1 in face then say "stop telling lies or I break your legs"
Or tell a friend you trust and who jack trusts the whole story so he can tell jack the truth and at least he will be making his choice based on the truth rather than mean lies, then he will not like bob anymore for lying to him and if your friend gets back with jack you won't ever have to worry about bob messing it up.

I think the reason why Jack believed Bob is because of the unspoken code between men, one of the rules of that code is to not let girls get inbetween them, Bob has dishonored this code and needs to be shot.

(I'll write this in a way only you can understand)
Don't introduce her to guys, I think you would just repeat the whole bob/jack saga if you did that. Lets say you introduce her to two different guys, guy3 and guy4. guy3 would ask her out, she would say yes but she really likes guy4 who likes her too but she doesn't know that, but then guy1 would spread more lies about her, then guy2 would want her back, but guy4 has a gun. It would just go on like that...

Hope that helps.

[Suiko Eiji]

The answer to your question is right in your own forum quote:

"Pick up the goods, drop the bads, and fly around the world."

These guys seem to be on the lower end of the Brain Tree; find new boyfriends. If she's willing and wanting to make the same mistake again and you've still tried to talk her out of it, then let her make the mistake again. Let her have her heart broken. Maybe then she'll learn her lesson.

Besides, I think she may have been asking for this because she was going after her SO's friend.

[kenshinbebop]

I'm a Detective. Ya know the drill, I outline the case and then I solve it.

From what I gather, this situation could be solved by a sex orgy.

Case closed.


:lol:

[/thread]

Prons, prons, prons...you always have the answer.


To tell you the truth, I couldn't even finish the paragraph, it gave me a headache.

[Fobb]

Sorry, I got lost at "Boy 1 likes boy 2" or something like that...

[Midoriko87]

Sooooo, you guys are being like serious about not like understanding Minmae's first post? Indeed...

Anywho, I just realized something. It seems, unless I'm misreading/misinterpreting something, that Your Friend was crushin' on Jack before she even started dating Bob. Additionally, Your Friend knew that she wasn't interested in Bob when she made the conscious decision to start dating him. From what I gather, Your Friend was all like, "Hmm, well, I know I don't have feelings for Bob, but I'll date him, anwayz, just 'cause he asked..." And, it kinda seems that Your Friend asked Bob for a "break" so that she could be open for Jack... even though, Your Friend wasn't sure whether or not Jack was interested in her. Although, Bob was the one that ended things officially, it's kinda obvious why Your Friend wanted "time-off."

Now, if this is indeed the case, why did Your Friend agree to date Bob in the first place? I mean, do people do that? You know, like date people they're not interested in just for the hoot of it? Weird...

I mean, I guess none of this matters now, since the Damage has been Done, but there's a chance that Your Friend could've avoided all of this by telling Bob that she wasn't interested in him. A Chance. Bob sounds like a douche, so he probably would've been pissed if she had turned him down... You know, that Bob is a real piece of work. "Something" needs to be done about him...

[Reinas]

STAY IN SCHOOL.

And forget about bf1 and bf2 and bf3?

[Haro!]

If she's cute tell her you know a guy named Haro! that can treat her right.
But really, if this Jack fellow dumps her for some dumb reason like that, is he really worth all the trouble, and would you want your friend going out with a guy like that? Apparently he beleives his homies more than he trusts girl and that shouldn't be the case. Which goes back to the first sentence of my post.

[Evil_Koala]

Burning ring of fire?

[master terrence]

find proof that bob was lieing :rolleyes: if you are sure he even was lieing. Either that, or tell your friend to go lesbo. Honestly, it isn't a big problem. I mean this, no sarcasm. You + friends are just blowing it up and need to realize BOB is not a good friend. This should tell you something, abandon Bob. Problem solved. Just give your friend and jack time. It isn't like she will be homeless without jack.


Until you find out Jack really wants her back, whatever you come up with has no base. A few weeks in a PI and things can change. Whats stopping him from cheating and having a guilty conscience... maybe he doesn't like her?

[minmae]

Here's a more comprehensive version of the original post (as I see it):

1.Friend goes out with Bob
2.Friend doesn't like the relationship
3.Friend and Bob break up
4.Friend goes out with Jack
5.Bob and Jack are best friends
6.Bob is cool with relationship of Friend and Jack at first
7.Friend and Bob start not liking each other at all
8.Bob tells Jack that Friend is cheating on him
9.Friend and Jack break up, give each other a second chance, then break up again
10.Bob, Jack and their posse don't hang out with Friend and Minmae
11.Bob, Jack, and their posse all believe Bob's story
12.Friend is madly in love with Jack
13.Minmae wants to help
14.Minmae posts semi-intelligable thread on AN asking for help


YESSS. CORRECT! I mean Bob and Jack are still my friends and my friend's freinds. And I'm starting to notice Jack is ignoring my friend...ALOT.

[minmae]

Thanks for that DL Sabaku.

Okay, Min., here's what I suggest you do.

Get your friend to see that there are bigger and better guys out there for her, OTHER than the retard JACK.

Jack needs to be seriously "Jacked-up" and I'd like to be the person who makes that boy see that the universe does not revolve around his sorry butt, by introducing him to my best friend Mr. Tire Iron.

But since I can't do that, then just take my advice and get your friend out and socialize with a better group of people. And introduce her to new guys. If you don't know any other guys, then I suggest talking to her about the finer points in life..such as her good qualities and how she could best give those special qualities and attention to a guy who will treat her right.

And if that doesn't work, then I shall be happy to introduce Jack to some well deserved Iron.

I know kiyomi, I did! She said, "I know there's better guys out there, but I really love him." I kept saying, " Awww mann, " or sighed.

[minmae]

Things You (Minmae) Could Do For Yourself and/or Your Friend.

1) Well, Bob and Jack and the Crew don't seem to have a problem with you. If you wanna be a total salty female dog approximately 9" at the Withers, you could drop Your Friend like a newborn Giraffe (lame, I know) and continue to hang with the Old Posse.
2) Tell Your Friend to get over Jack. He DOESN'T want her. Tell her to her face: HE DOES NOT WANT YOU! In fact, she needs to stop trying to be cool with Bob, Jack and Crew. It doesn't matter what Bob may've said, or to whom Your Friend's stupid guy friend may've sent pictures. Not saying it's Your Friend's fault, but It is what It is. Although, I'm curious. What were Your Friend and her stupid guy friend doing in those pictures? I mean, not like DOING, but you know, doing... And, let's clarify. Your Friend's stupid guy friend sent these pictures to Jack and/or Crew, non? Still, Your Friend's stupid guy friend sending pictures of himself and Your Friend to Jack? That's sayin' somethin' LOUD... so, I guess it doesn't matter what the two were doing, not DOING. If he sent those pictures to Jack, that is.

Of course, if you would like Your Friend to continue friending with the Crew, you need to approach them and ask why are they ignoring Your Friend. And, if you sincerely believe that she's not In the Wrong, defend her. Of course, you risk losing the friendship of the Crew, because it kinda seems like they value Jack's friendship over Your Friend's, and well, if you Side with her... STICKY!

As for your friend, she's kinda, um, well she's somethin'... She needs to start lookin' for new friends and gettin' over Jack. Still, I'm sure it'll be very difficut... VERY difficult. Or, she can wait for to things blow over... Would I wait? No. But, that's just me.


Thanks, Midoriko87. The "crew" though and Bob and Jack, sometimes hide secrests too. I'm saying I have problems with them, but I most of the time, feel left out. Even my friend. That's why we got our other friend and have fun.

But anyways, back on topic. My friend's stupid guy, it my friends ex-boyfriend. And he kept sending pics to Jack, when they were going out. And Jack thought it was took recently. And he doesn't want to believe my friend.

[minmae]

Sooooo, you guys are being like serious about not like understanding Minmae's first post? Indeed...

Anywho, I just realized something. It seems, unless I'm misreading/misinterpreting something, that Your Friend was crushin' on Jack before she even started dating Bob. Additionally, Your Friend knew that she wasn't interested in Bob when she made the conscious decision to start dating him. From what I gather, Your Friend was all like, "Hmm, well, I know I don't have feelings for Bob, but I'll date him, anwayz, just 'cause he asked..." And, it kinda seems that Your Friend asked Bob for a "break" so that she could be open for Jack... even though, Your Friend wasn't sure whether or not Jack was interested in her. Although, Bob was the one that ended things officially, it's kinda obvious why Your Friend wanted "time-off."

Now, if this is indeed the case, why did Your Friend agree to date Bob in the first place? I mean, do people do that? You know, like date people they're not interested in just for the hoot of it? Weird...

I mean, I guess none of this matters now, since the Damage has been Done, but there's a chance that Your Friend could've avoided all of this by telling Bob that she wasn't interested in him. A Chance. Bob sounds like a douche, so he probably would've been pissed if she had turned him down... You know, that Bob is a real piece of work. "Something" needs to be done about him...

She did like Bob. But, during their relationship she wasn't that sure. Jack liked somebody else that time. So she went out with Bob. And it was good. But they always had fights. So then she asked for a break. Then Bob broke up with her. then later on...it as cool then Jack liked her. And Jack asked her out. And she REALLY likes him. So it wasn't like Bob's realationship.

[minmae]

The answer to your question is right in your own forum quote:



These guys seem to be on the lower end of the Brain Tree; find new boyfriends. If she's willing and wanting to make the same mistake again and you've still tried to talk her out of it, then let her make the mistake again. Let her have her heart broken. Maybe then she'll learn her lesson.

Besides, I think she may have been asking for this because she was going after her SO's friend.


Aww thanks. Love you.