What do u look for in the opposite sex

[kiyomi]

really Master T?

wow..

***Pushes all the men on AN out the door**

RUN!! RUN FASTER!!

[Reidar]

Because, for all I know, you could be saying that just to prove me wrong. Anyway, I'm still not convinced, I think all men have an innate carnal desire. I think yours is just repressed; either that or you refuse to acknowledge said desire.

Meaning I don't want to, which is what I said.

[HSaabedra]

Ultimate expression? Being made supper?
Sex, and that would be nice. Know how to cook a steak? ;)

[Chousho]

Sex, and that would be nice. Know how to cook a steak? ;)
WTF, are you hitting on me? EXIT ONLY!

[HSaabedra]

LOL.
Just LOL.

[Loopy]

Funny, coming from someone who was working with an argument more suited for a bratty child back there. 'In the example of the requirement of sex, for me compromises must be made; if not sex then making out or petting to substitute.' That really isn't 'mature' or 'adult like' in my mind.

And I think you're coming with an argument more suited for a snooty little preteen ***** whose panties are in a knot and is struggling with her first bout of PMS (hey you said I'm a little boy who needs to be castrated so gender centric insults are fair game!).

So yeah you're not really adult like either.

Fragile arguments? I'm making serious points here, try to keep up.

:lol:

I was under the impression that you basically forced your partner to either have sex, or become the victim of a breakup. Hell, you say you can wait, but then contradict yourself completely. What kind of an argument disagrees with itself?

I can wait but not too long. Not too hard to grasp girlie.

So...do you just carry around a sign that says, 'Sex or bust' all day? Do you actually tell your potential girlfriend, 'go out with me only if you want to have sex', before you ask them out? Otherwise, they might not know about your intentions and actually start falling for you not knowing your hidden agenda.

Wanting sex in a relationship isn't a hidden agenda. It's to be expected at some point or another. If it doesn't happen then it doesn't work. Those are my standards and given my love for sex I will make it clear. Best to clear the BS out of the way early on after all.

So what do you view unplanned pregnancy as? The unfortunate spoils of the sport?

Pretty much. I hate children. Spare me a long diatribe about how evil I am, 'kay? Obviously I'll support it if she wants it but I'm very much for abortion all the same.

I actually wasn't trying to use a condescending tone at all. I was simply trying to state my (STRONG) opinion on this matter. As I've said before...I've seen these things happen before....and they aren't good.

There's a difference between being an asshat and being a strong minded person. Since you can't distinguish between the two, you're obviously of the former. That you're justifying your asshattery under the guise of just expressing your beliefs is laughable.

Anyways, I was under the impression that you basically were holding too high of expectations over these women--pressuring them to put out even if they didn't want to. You have to admit, some of your posts back there did seem a little 'demanding' or whatnot.

No you're just using your own interpretations as excuses for your inflammatory remarks.

So you basically want educated trailer trash? No classy girls for you, you know...the ones with those pesky things called morals...and enough common sense not to do stupid things? Oh and for the record, classy girls don't equal 'prudish, suppressed women who can't have fun'. Jeez...

Think before you post. Wanting someone who isn't a dainty little girly girl or who is a bit masculine isn't the same as wanting trailer trash unless of course you actually believe that BS that everyone who strays from societal gender roles is a freak or other nonsense of that sort. If that's true there is no limit to your condescension. And everyone does stupid things in their lives. "Dignified" women are no exception.

A relationship doesn't equal sex. Sex is one of the later perks of a serious (love involved) relationship. It shouldn't be used against a person (as in the case of, 'before six months time or else'), it should be something done out of love. Sure, people don't think that nowadays...but with all the diseases floating around out there (and the ever-present threat of unplanned pregnancy) you'd think more people would adopt such a frame of mind.

Wow, I can tell you don't usually do it with people you love. Yeah, those are the physical aspects of it--but there are emotional strings attached. It's more than just those 'mechanical' features--if you wait for someone you love, it can open up a whole world of wonderful feelings and pleasures. And I'm not talking just the dirty ones, either. It is a wonderful, fulfilling experience if done with someone you love. You make it sound like a cheap thrill.

And I obviously have different opinions. Please stop trying to preach to me because it is insulting to my intelligence and makes me want to fill my posts with nothing but :lol:'s harder.

It depends on the reasons behind the breakup. If you two are just not compatible (i.e. you like different things, you two just don't feel the 'spark', etc.) yeah, that pain will hurt--but it will disappear with time. If the breakup is over something like she wouldn't have sex with you, then that will leave some emotional scars. Say she may have felt the world for you, but her beliefs just didn't permit her to engage in such endeavors. You break up with her. She wonders if she would be better off just putting out, becoming a **** like it seems you were after.

One more time!

Dating is about luck and failure. People need to move on. A rejection from me isn't a rejection from all dudes. I want sex in a relationship. If that's not happening then I'll find someone who will give me physical intimacy. There are many other fish in the sea. Get a life and pursue them. If you get pissed and feel the need to rant at me with your beliefs that I'm a no-good piece of garbage (nevermind that you don't actually know me, oh man, internet behavior is such a good guage of how people are in real life), please refrain from breeding. Hell I'd ENCOURAGE her to find someone else because obviously she doesn't fit my criteria and no matter how good it would seem at first, she'd discover that I wasn't because I am very much into sex and that would interfere with the relationship because on a matter as important as sex, it'd greatly contrast her beliefs. 'Sides the shy virgin types don't interest me so there's a lesser chance of heartbreak over sex happening anyway.

Your list of 'favorite things' in your profile seems to say differently there.

So being honest about my love for sex makes me a horny halfwit? What?

So I guess people who have tons of anime DVDs automatically fit nerdy stereotypes? Dear lord your true colors shine more and more with each post you make.

[HSaabedra]

Loopy, just drop the arguement, your chauvinist chest beating act is getting tired.
Shiroiyuki, there's no point in reasoning with him if all you're going to do is criticize him for who he is. No one will win this arguement.

[Suiko Eiji]

Loopy, just drop the arguement, your chauvinist chest beating act is getting tired.
Shiroiyuki, there's no point in reasoning with him if all you're going to do is criticize him for who he is. No one will win this arguement.

Well said (my emphesis), Axl, even though I agree with what Loopy is saying, but certainly not with the way he is saying it.

[Chousho]

There's a certain word for somebody who's in a relationship primarily for sex.

What's that word?

[The Million Dollar Prons]

There's a certain word for somebody who's in a relationship primarily for sex.

What's that word?

Prons!

- Prons

[Shiroiyuki]

There's a certain word for somebody who's in a relationship primarily for sex.

What's that word?

'Man-pig'


Or...um....'manbearpig', either way it isn't good...

[Chousho]

'Man-pig'


Or...um....'manbearpig', either way it isn't good...
Yes, fight the evil!
http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/4/49/Stop_ManBearPig.jpg

But I'd really like to do a feature other than the MBP

[LostCause]

Intelligence and a sense of humor. Curiosity, open-mindedness and self-confidence. The desire to challenge herself, the courage to see where the road leads her. Honesty. The capacity to trust. Genuine compassion. Someone who genuinely sees good things in life, and that those things outweigh the bad. Someone who's literate, loves to travel off the beaten path and experience simple pleasures. Willing to try new things simply to have fun trying them. Someone who's independent, but who also enjoys sharing her life with others. Complex but uncomplicated.

Yes. Those are actually the things I look for* in the opposite sex.

*Thus far, unsuccessfully, I might add. Should I be looking for Boobs & *** instead? I see a lot of guys going for that, and they seem to have more luck. Or more dates, anyway.

Respected leader, if I may ask you a question.
You surely realise that noone is perfect, so my question is: if you find the lady with all the above qualities, how many of her imperfections are you willing to tolerate? And what those might be?
Can she be lazy, rude, short, fat, illegal alien, gambler........oh I don't know, but I'm sure you understand what I mean.

[Rain]

...more commonly known as Nymphomania...

Yeah, I know, I was joking.

Yes and no. Read the information and you might notice that there's debate on whether to even label this as a 'disorder' at all. Clearly for some people it is, but there are some people who consider asexuality to be a natural state of human existence for some people. It's sort of like the "is homosexuality a disease or a natural inclination" issue. Some view it as a disease, some view it as a natural variance. If it doesn't cause any problem for the individual, it wouldn't necessarily be considered a disorder.

Well, see, in one of my earlier posts, I said a little something that went like this...

All men and women like sex. Non? Maybe except the "asexual" ones if you catch my drift.

I made an exception.

At any rate, my only point was to provide objective support for the idea that not all men (or women) have a significant libido.

Point taken. Not significant enough to be considered "healthy" and/or "normal," but significant enough to be able to have some sort of sexually dysfunctional libido.

So, would it be safe to say that the average man and woman (those who don't suffer from ISD) have at least a low level of sexual desire?

Again, not trying to spark a debate, just trying to apply the perspective of modern psychiatric diagnosis to that point of the discussion.

I'm too tired to debate, anyway. (need my caffeine)

Meaning I don't want to, which is what I said.

Fine, you don't want to do something you like. I can agree with that.

[master terrence]

I wouldn't want a girl who is controlling all the time... but how can you even figure that out, until your in a relationship o close to it. Can't trust ex-boyfriends either. Different guy = different relationship and maybe a few bitter lies.

[SangoStrummer]

Respected leader, if I may ask you a question.
You surely realise that noone is perfect, so my question is: if you find the lady with all the above qualities, how many of her imperfections are you willing to tolerate? And what those might be?
Can she be lazy, rude, short, fat, illegal alien, gambler........oh I don't know, but I'm sure you understand what I mean.

He has found a girl with all these qualities. And luckily for him she has no such imperfections. Aside from the laziness, the nurse/bondage games, being a little on the short side but even moreso on the rude side. Oh, can't forget the excessive gambling...and the small fact she's a 435 lb she/male that lives in her/his parents basement and enjoys the naughty cyber fun they have every odd Tuesday...>.>

[Leader Desslock]

Respected leader, if I may ask you a question.
You surely realise that noone is perfect, so my question is: if you find the lady with all the above qualities, how many of her imperfections are you willing to tolerate? And what those might be?
Can she be lazy, rude, short, fat, illegal alien, gambler........oh I don't know, but I'm sure you understand what I mean.
I never ruled out many of those things, actually.
- Rude? I'm worse.
- Short? Fine by me.
- Fat? Well, I might not go for a morbidly obese person eating herself to death, but as long as someone's healthy, body style doesn't matter much to me.
- Illegal alien? Um - so?
- Gambler? What she does with her own money is up to her. I think gambling is a tax on people who are bad at math, but if it gives her kicks, she's more than welcome to do it.

Really, I'd be happy to meet someone who had a decent outlook on life, was happy being herself, and was happy with me being myself. Most of the criteria I list above are just traits I know will give us something in common, or will prevent problems I know will arise.

Take the sense of humor. I know that I will drive anyone who doesn't have a sense of humor nuts. It's a fact. I don't take myself seriously. If I were to try to hook up with a woman who took herself very seriously and couldn't laugh, I would stress her out. She'd either think I was insane, an idiot, or both.

So I don't go there. I make humorous comments right up front, and any woman who doesn't get past those doesn't even qualify for the subsequent tests. It would be a waste of time for both of us, and even more stressful on her than me. ^_^

I'm pretty easygoing, but I've been around long enough to know who can put up with me and who can't. :lol:

[Reidar]

Fine, you don't want to do something you like. I can agree with that.

Compulsion =/= liking something.

[LostCause]

@Leader Desslock
Interesting, but let me rephrase myself. What are the traits you absolutely won't tolerate, assuming the lady has the ones you mentioned in the original post.
Substance abuse?
Moments of abusive behaviour towards others?
Extreme spending?
Infertility?
Those are just examples, I can't come up with anything else at the moment and anyway its your call.

[Shiroiyuki]

Infertility?


Oh, that is a terrible thing to judge women by. I have a friend who's been trying to have a baby, but it turns out she is infertile. It was heartbreaking.

You could always adopt, God knows there are tons of babies that no one wants out there :(

[The Million Dollar Prons]

Actually, it's a lot more worse\heartbreaking when it's the man who's infertile.

[LostCause]

Oh, that is a terrible thing to judge women by. I have a friend who's been trying to have a baby, but it turns out she is infertile. It was heartbreaking.

You could always adopt, God knows there are tons of babies that no one wants out there :(

You are right of course.
It is there just as an example.
And I believe there are people who will judge a woman by this and other traits that seem horrid to us. In fact I met some. Not saying Leader Desslock is like that of course.

[MagicianCamille]

Oh, that is a terrible thing to judge women by.

Once again Judge Shiroi slams down her HAMMER OF JUDGEMENT.

[Shiroiyuki]

Once again Judge Shiroi slams down her HAMMER OF JUDGEMENT.


No no no, it's called the FUZZY MALLET OF DOOM!

Get it right :P

[Leader Desslock]

@Leader Desslock
Interesting, but let me rephrase myself. What are the traits you absolutely won't tolerate, assuming the lady has the ones you mentioned in the original post.
Okay, so assuming she has all this:

Intelligence and a sense of humor. Curiosity, open-mindedness and self-confidence. The desire to challenge herself, the courage to see where the road leads her. Honesty. The capacity to trust. Genuine compassion. Someone who genuinely sees good things in life, and that those things outweigh the bad. Someone who's literate, loves to travel off the beaten path and experience simple pleasures. Willing to try new things simply to have fun trying them. Someone who's independent, but who also enjoys sharing her life with others. Complex but uncomplicated....
You're asking what would be a dealbreaker on top of that.

Hmmm.

Not much, from what I can tell. Most of my traits I listed rule out the deal breakers I can imagine. I agree with Shiroiyuki that something like Infertility is so silly as to be a non-issue. Who cares about that?

I suppose that it would come down to things like grotesquely bad hygiene? If someone stunk so bad that I couldn't get near her, and she wouldn't bathe when asked - that'd be a problem. But I think that's such an extreme case as not to be realistic.

Substance addition? That's something you work through together. Obviously, I'm not going to seek out a meth addict whose brains are fried, but again, we're talking about extremes there. Same with compulsive spending. It's an issue you work through, but obviously if someone's racking up international fraud charges, you have to draw a line.

If someone has personality issues, then - again, it's a spectrum. A little OC is fine. Totally stark raving homicidal is not.

I think that any extremes of anything that separates a person from their humanity would be bad, really. I dunno. Maybe I'd just have to take it on a case by case basis. ^_^ Sorry I can't answer more clearly.

[LostCause]

Sorry I can't answer more clearly.
Nah, that was fine. very sensible, realistic and down to earth. ^_^